Build love by bonding twice a day with these Tantra-based techniques. This practice can be done at any time with your partner, and not just as a way to reconnect after a disagreement but it’s also a great practice to reaffirm each other’s love and devotion to one another. Since we couldn’t have set it better ourselves we’re rebloggling Yoga Journal’s Tantra Techniques article.
Each of us has days when we arrive home tired and cranky, wake up on the wrong side of bed, or get stuck in a conflict with our partner. Rather than waiting until you drift apart, couples can proactively build love by bonding twice a day through practices that Western Tantra teachers Charles and Caroline Muir call “10-Minute Connects.” Here are two techniques:
The position for this practice is good old-fashioned spooning. (Esoteric theory of energy flow dictates that you should both be on your left sides.) Decide which one of you feels most in need of nurturing, this person will be the receiver of energy. Since the partner in back will be the giver (though you’ll both rebalance your energy through the exercise), the giver should snuggle in close behind their partner, lining the chakras up: heart center to heart center, belly center to belly center, and so on. Both partners should use pillows to prop head, neck, and shoulders high enough so the giving partner can slip their left arm under the receiving partner’s neck and bring their hand to rest lightly on the third eye chakra of their partner’s forehead or the crown chakra at the top of the head. The giving partner’s right arm should cradle their partner, with their hand over their loved one’s heart; both partners clasp hands here.
After a few moments, move into the “harmonizing breath.” Notice your partner’s breath, and begin to synchronize with it: Inhale together, pause together, exhale together, and pause again. As the receiver inhales, focus on accepting energy through your back into all of your chakras; as the giver exhales, they concentrate on sending energy out the front of the body and into your partner’s body.
When you’re ready, you can use this technique to charge each chakra individually. Begin with the heart chakra, and focus there for three full breath cycles. Then move your awareness to your third eye chakra for three breaths; then your “root” chakra at the base of the spine. Next, move up your body to your second chakra (your genital area), then your navel chakra, your throat chakra, and your crown chakra. (Skip the heart and the brow, since you’ve already charged those.)
Hand on Heart
Sit comfortably, cross-legged, facing your partner. Each of you places your right hand on your partner’s heart chakra and your left hand atop your partner’s right hand. Tune in to your heart: first, your physical heart, and then the emotion and energy of your heart chakra. Can you sense your heartbeat? How does your heart chakra feel? Expansive and open? Constricted? Fluttery? Vibrating? Peaceful? Try closing your eyes and focusing on the connection between your heart and your partner’s hand, or you can gaze into each other’s eyes and/or engage in the harmonizing breath.
Adapted from Yoga Journal, full article here.